When should you visit friends, colleagues, or relatives who had just given birth? What should be done and you should not do when visiting birth mother or the newborn, consider the tips given Mien R Uno in his book, Etiquette: Success Brings Self in All Occasions.

May be performed:
* We recommend you to visit the maternity mother when he was still in hospital, after the new mother with enough rest. Normal deliveries usually lasts 5-10 hours. Allow the mother to rest and recover himself for 24 hours postpartum.

* Visit mother while still in the maternity hospital or maternity home is better than to see him when he was at home. Because there is still no nurses and doctors who care for mothers and their babies. Meanwhile, if already in the home, the mother began to bother taking care of her baby.

* The expression of joy over the birth of the baby can be represented with a gift or gifts for the mother or baby. According to Mien, you can also bring fruits and flowers, plus greeting cards. If you decide to buy a gift, you should select baby gear that is useful and durable.

Should not be done:
* Better not to visit the maternity mother when you're sick, especially infectious diseases such as coughs and colds. Of course you do not want the mother whose condition is still weak contracting the virus from you, right?

* We do not need to give advice about postpartum care and infant care to the mother in labor, when you see him. Believe it was, the mother must have repeatedly heard, from his parents, siblings are also other friends. You do not need to add a list of friends that give similar advice.

* Make small talk and fun. But do not also control the conversation. Let alone the birthing mother who told me his desire not mowed your question. Respect is also his wish if he chooses not want to talk much.

* Should not be too long to visit. Empathize in her new mother. Especially if you see him not far from the time of delivery. How did she still feel tired. Give him a chance for more rest.

* If you visit with many friends, do not go rollicking in one room. We recommend that you divide the group into small groups and go in turn.

* The presence of tiny new figure, especially as he becomes part of your family of course adorable. However, if you visit the birth mother while still in hospital, you should not cuddle or kiss the baby even though you really want it. You never know what will happen to the baby. If all of a sudden she was crying and inconsolable, your attitude will only make the panic of the mother. Not only that, if the mother is sharing a room with other people, this will disturb the tranquility around you.